It's everyone's dream to become a parent someday, but what does parenthood entail? Parenting has no manual, so what could go wrong?
Not all methods work on your child the way you expect. Sometimes you may experience a lot of emotional workout and you end up feeling dejected.
Children are a bucket full of emotions, and as a parent handling them is not an easy task. There exists are a lot of parenting mistakes that you can commit without realizing it as you raise your child.
Here are 10 common parenting mistakes you are bound to make.
1. Letting Technology Take Over
Technology keeps you connected and updates you on the current issues going on in the society. You can learn a lot from using technology as well as have fun.
Yet, excessive usage of technology can cut off communication within the family.
As much as you want your child to have fun, limit their usage of devices. Then create quality time with your child where technology isn't involved.
How do you do that? Come up with fun activities such as playing board games, watch a family movie, play the body, heads and tales. The outdoor activities you may include, visiting the museum, sight-seeing, and karting. Your child will become connected to you and they will remember the time you shared with them.
2. Passing Your Dreams to Your Child
As a parent, you might have unfulfilled dreams from your childhood. Though you could not do them, it is better not to see your child as your second chance of fulfilling those dreams.
This simple parenting mistake may cause distressed between their dreams to yours. As a parent, you need to let your child live their dreams and aspirations.
It will help them develop a sense of responsibility for what they want.
3. Comparing Your Child to Other People
Do you like being compared to someone else? Words such as," Why can't you be like……" kills your child's self – esteem about the world.
With self – esteem gone, your child tends to believe that they are inferior to the world. Then the word "good for nothing" becomes your child's motto. As much as you wish to instill some sense of competition to your child's life, it may be already too late
In order to avoid disappointments your child begins to withdraw from you. To avoid this, you need to accept and encourage your child to pursue their talent.
4. Over - Protecting Your Child
Protection is an instinct to parents but sometimes it can go overboard. As a parent, you may tend to overlook this parental mistake. Simply on the bases of your experience on what's best and worst about life challenges.
On the other hand, your child learns to depend on you to a point where they can't sustain themselves on their own. This may cause your child to become emotionally fragile.
To avoid this, give simple tasks to your child to do on their own. As your child grows they will become motivated and gain a sense of responsibility.
5. Expecting Perfection
No parent wishes failure upon their child. But we confuse between wishing the best for them and instilling perfection on them.
There are a set of unrealistic expectations in academics or outdoor activities. Which may trigger signs of anxiety and depression in your child.
As a parent, it's important to provide a conducive environment. Where your child is allowed to make mistakes and learn from them. This improves your child's ability to overcome obstacles and gain stress management skills.
6. Complying with Your Child's Demands
Sometimes your child's endless demands can be frustrating. Furthermore, you tend to give in to most of them to put an end to the nagging. But it's important to set limits on what they can access and at what point.
Giving in to your child's demands regularly will cause more harm than good. This will make your child think that they can manipulate anyone into getting what they want.
7. Being a Bad Role Model for Your Child
The first role of a parent is to set a good example. This can be regarded as the way you handle your actions. From treating other people, to how you respond to problems.
Your child doesn't only watch but listen to whatever you do, say and how you say it. Being a parent, you ought to consider how you talk to people, share opinions and deal with responsibilities.
Setting a good example will enable your child to develop strong working ethics.
8. Over – Praising Your Child
It feels right to praise your child once they have done something impressive. But have you ever considered the negative side of overpraising?
Overpraising develops a condition called narcissism. Where your child feels superior and crave for endless admiration from other people.
Giving praise becomes a parental mistake once it's done in the wrong way. Thus, there are certain ways in which you can praise your child. Such as, looking into your child in the eyes, choosing wise words, being sincere and specific.
It's more important not to inflate your child's self-worth rather be more reserved about praises.
9. Not Listening to Your Child
Listening holds a lot of impact when it comes to parenting. Sometimes as a parent you get held up in your busy schedule and you forget to bond with your child.
There is a difference between honest listening and trying to find something to mend. Instead, acknowledge your child's emotions and let them access their emotions.
Once the fire has settled, you may give your opinion. This will create a trusting relationship between you and your child.
10. Being Skittish About Questions Asked By Your Child
There are a couple of questions you may feel uncomfortable to talk about with your child. Such as "Where do babies come from?" or "Does God exist?”
So what do you do?
Stay calm then respond. As much as possible avoid reacting to your child's questions because they will avoid you in the future. Then your child will seek for answers from someone whom they are more comfortable with. Keep in mind that the answers you give should be as needed. This may vary according to your child's maturity level.
How to Mend Your Parenting Mistakes
Parenting is a sea full of emotions and sometimes you ought to say something which you will regret later. The issue shouldn't lie on your current parental mistake but how to resolve the mistakes.
Recognize, apologies, discuss, learn and move on to improving your parenting skills
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